Its been said that you can never move forward if you are looking backwards. This usually comes from ignorant people who are simply trying to accomplish their own goals, with no regard to long term effects, side effects, or the general laws of physics and probability. You know the people with the "well, I can do it better" attitude.
Personally I'm more inclined to the saying "you don't know where you are going if you don't know where you have been." Avoiding making the same mistake twice is something I have tried desperately to do. Unfortunately, my concept of the past goes back quite a bit further than just my 25 years and usually the appropriate memories don't surface until after I'm dealing with the fallout. Hindsight is 20/20 my ass.
One thing I have had out here in mass quantities is time to sit and think. Which unfortunately allows me time to sit and turn every decision I've ever made over in my head and place it in the "what was I thinking" category. One of my major character flaws is I hate stuff that falls into the "but what if" sections. What if I had not done this when I did, where would I be? What if I had gone this way instead? If I hadn't joined the Army where would I be? What if I did join the Army but didn't get married when I did? If, if, if, if, if. I've always tried to live my life without the what if's but now I'm 25 years old and I have enough of them to build a tree house, and probably the tree as well.
So how do you cope with these things? I've always found a combination of booze, cigarettes, and lots of sex usually works well. Unfortunately, there are two draw backs to this approach. 1) Your body tends to hate you after a couple of days if you keep up with all three. 2) Two of my three options are not available to me out here. Sorry porn and frequent masturbation don't count as sex, no matter how many teenagers wish they did. Is there another effective way of dealing with this problem? (that what ifs not the lack of sex, please try to stay with the conversation, freaking perverts...)
The only other way I've found is to be open and honest with the people in your life. Its the things left unsaid that will tear you apart from your loved ones. The best course is always to get it off your chest and deal with it together. It doesn't matter if its a friend, a lover, a significant other, parent, whatever. After you talk it out, will things probably change? Most likely, will it always be for the better, in my experience usually. Thats one of the reasons that I'm always happy when someone comes to me, even if it is something that I may not agree with/want to hear/ or will generally make life more difficult. In then end, it almost always works out for the better.
Wow. Ok so that was a really long philosophical rant. Hadn't really planned on that one. And since I really don't have a way out of this......
BOOBIES!!!
*points and runs away*
1 comment:
the comedic effect almost ruins the seriousness of the post, but not quite. but the end actually did make me burst out with laughing.
but, on the other stuff...it is sometimes very difficult to avoid making the same mistakes more than once, because, like you said, sometimes you don't realize you've done it until the fallout comes down on your head.
as for the what ifs...i pretty much avoid them lately, but i've finally realized that everything (no matter how horrible or great) happens to us for a specific reason...so even if some of the things you've done were mistakes, it was a mistake you had to make in order to move forward.
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